Well folks, here's to all us foolish mortals with more hope than quit. Cheers!!
I've been bouncing back and forth between here and Separated. The short is that she says everything is easily explainable and that my snooping has killed everything. That said, the tension level was much reduced after our little blowup.
I had a friend point out something. You can't win against your partner's emotions or memories or perceptions. You can fall on your sword and agree with them completely that yes, it was all your fault and yes, they felt the way they did. Now what? They are still identifying with those things and you can't win against them.
I believe this is where we are. She doesn't trust me and I don't trust her and I feel like I'm doing battle with her memories and perceptions of all the times that I hurt her. I don't know how I can win this fight. I think I could become the perfect husband and father and it still wouldn't be enough because of the painful memories of the past.
I'm going to spend the next week until our MC pondering what things I might still need to work on and what things she needs to work on so that in my opinion we can build a new R.
