I read No More Mr. Nice Guy and I think it can help. Think of "Nice Guy" as different from nice guy. A nice guy is just nice. A "Nice Guy" might often be genuinely nice, but at least some of the time, he's pretending to be "nice", pretending to have no needs of his own, and pretending he only cares about someone else. It's not real; it's just his way of manipulating people.
And by "his," of course, I mean "my."
NMMNG has a forum under that name. I won't include a link here, but I've been posting in both places and found help in both. One thing we don't do here that the NMMNG forum encourages, for instance, is meeting in real life to form support groups. I suppose they figure it's less problematic to encourage meetings among recovering "Nice Guys" than meetings between sex-starved, heartbroken divorcees of both sexes.
