Lan, I am so sorry to hear about your W's family health problems. Every W needs her H there for her at that time more than any other. You don't have to say anything as long as you are there to hold her. But, it is good if you can just try to reassure her that the two of you will get through it and that better days will come. Women just need to be told that b/c it is like comfort food for us.
A life and death situation can certainly put everything else in proper perspective, can't it? I can look back on our early years when all we really had to worry about was lack of money. Oh sure, it was serious and I cried a lot.....but the thing was that we all were healthy! Then, my dauhter's health turned very serious, then me, then my son, then my H. Now, we still have some money problems....and always will, but if I could go back to those early years when we were all healthy.....how wonderful it would be.
You mentioned something about your health. Have I missed something here? Are you okay, or have you discovered that you aren't as well as you thought?
My prayers are with all of you. I don't have to tell you to just take a day at a time. The Lord gives us His grace to face what we have.....for that day. Then, when the next day arrives, He will give us grace.....for that day, and so on.
You are a strong man, Lan, and I admire you. I think your wife is going to see just strong your love for each other is during this difficult time. It is hard on the caregivers and supporters, but I know you can do it b/c I think I've learned that much about you.
Take care of yourself....okay? You have to stay well for everyone else's sake, too.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
