I haven't read all this but SG what do you mean in CA you do not get alimony? You mean because you made equal to your ex?

I live in CA , you know that lol
I was granted, oh this is gonna make some curdle, but hey not my decision alimony for life OR till I remarry, live with or ever end up making equal to my ex. Won't happen, as he makes significant. We were married 18 yrs and I didnt make any where comparable to what he did as he had been at his career 20 plus years.

Always told ex,I wouldnt want him to pay that long and it wasnt my intention and would rather not. Even when I worked 40 hrs I still rec'd it as it wasn't comp. to his wage.
AT first when ex heard he of course said, if I knew this i wouldnt of left ya ( jackass) I said Yea well I would of left YOU! lol I know, lame response but i was hurt and angry.

So just wondered what you meant.

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