Thanks for writing. I remember all too well that you were the first person to post on my very first thread in MLC...back in the day.
As far as alimony goes it depends on the situation. I chose to take ownership of the house instead. This is what made the most sense to me (and still does).
What I meant was that in CA the tendency is to get the "dependent" spouse OFF support as soon as possible. The goal is for each to be independent of the other. That works for me because I wanted to be as free as possible of my X as soon as possible. My strategy has worked well in many ways because I have so little dealings with him it is easy to move on.
Also, my kids were over 18 when we "actually" divorced. So no CS either. This also was my choice. In our agreement he agreed to help with college, and I am happy to say he has kept up his end of that particular bargain.
I do know of people who get alimony. One GF was married 30 years and she gets continuous support. But that is what the 2 of them agreed on. It just wasn't going to happen in my sit. in a way that I could live with. I wanted it to be done when it was done.
Hope that helps!
Goddess
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
