Hi, well I'll chime in for a while. SG, you sound really good and that peach tree story is the best. Just an allegory of how things grow and change for the better when we do not even know it's happening around us until we are able to see. Awesome progress. Me too although I do not post much.
The whole subject of stay at home moms has me walking down memory lane a bit. I was not one, and I didn't have kids. Both I and the x were committed to our work/jobs. I would have been willing to step back from that a bit had he had just one iota been willing to pay attention to home but he never would do that. Plus I was of the mind that I never wanted to have a man support me, I had to make my own way in the world, that was me and I was not normal with that, it was something I learned myself as I saw my mother not have difficulty with my father but she was on her own raising us. I had always worked, got married at 30 years old, and was in a career by then.
But I changed all that just before the X left me! I left my job and career in preparation for a new phase of our life together. The very moment I gave myself up to his protection and safety he left me.
I was lucky enough to end up with resources that I had built over time. But when the divorce was proceeding I was afraid enough to get myself a tent, a lantern, a sleeping bag in case I ended up homeless. It could happen to any of us as you well know. I am so proud of you and me and all the people who have come through this together.
It's pouring rain now, thunder and lightening so off I go. You take care, and remember every day is a journey in itself in this life. Wonder
