I'm the one that had the affair on my H, and we are now together. Yep, he needs time. He definitely needs to stop talking to her forever and give you a "no contact" promise. This will take a long time, but if he wants to work on your marriage and so do you, you two will be fine. SOoooo...other than talking together what are you two actively doing to repair your marriage? Just waiting it out won't change anything. Have you both been reading books? Retrouvaille in your plans for the future?
