She started and said that she wanted a divorce. I told her that I understood and would support her. She asked why I was so agreeable, did I find someone else. I said no, I wanted her to find her happiness. I said I would rather see her happy than married and not happy.
Went through a long talk on my side of things and what had happened. I did cry, it hurt when I really realized that I had emotionally abandoned her and tore up her trust and love. That does hurt more then her leaving. - W this may be the biggest mistake of my life I wanted to grow old with you I have to file D to feel like I am moving on Don't know where I am going to live, bills ect I failed you because you I was not strong enough to wait I fail at everything I do Without you I would not have all these things, gone to school ect You are know the man that I wanted to married to, but it is to late. I was to mean and not nice to you I am having feelings for someone else Why did it take you so long to change about D11 (actually step-D) and me dating someone, asked if some girl had called and asked me out
-M stayed supportive and comforted her said I do things at the house because that is who I am and it would help take some of the pressure off of her told her I had to hit bottom before I snapped out of it lifelong denial of depression and of of disconnect/ trust issues but she flipped a switch Accepted my role in what happened told her I would leave a door open if she found her way back, but did not expect her to, her decision
Pretty much went on for a couple hours.
Went to the house today to fix the computer and pickup some mail. She said to eat lunch there if I wanted to. She set up a meeting with a L on August 4 to figure out what to do. Made a comment about my "girlfriend" Katherine (?) and me dating. Talked to D11 about helping her mom get stuff done. Small talk. She was polite and said thank you for other things. She does say thank you for everything now.
Called me later in the afternoon about if I had picked up something from the store the other day. Short conversation and polite.
It did pretty much suck, but I don't give up that easy. Wait and see what happens next.
I am hoping that getting her thyroid med and anti depressants right will help out some. W is really stressed out right now. I try and stay calm and collected, but that is pretty normal for me.
I can't really tell with her whether she wants me to verbally fight for her or not. W does need a lot of verbal support.
Last edited by yenko69; 07/23/0811:50 PM.
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