They want to help and undoubtedly feel helpless at this point.
So true! People love you and want to help in any way. They will feel great that you asked them. If H shows up to help, more power to him. But I wouldn't mention the move anymore.
I hope H doesn't move with you. I know (if he is anything like my H), he will keep weaseling his way in, controlling you, pressuring you to do it his way.
