how about time to step up and tell your H, "this is not an acceptible way to feed our children. If you cant handle feeding them properly, then I will have [the babysitter do it]"
I did. He said he knows, he lost track of time.
This, is where you accepted excuses from HIM.
Quote:
Why'd i let him get away with it? i had a crying baby in one arm, D2 that didn't make it to the potty on time and D4 was somewhere downstairs. I don't have time to babysit him too. I know that by letting him sleep, i'm letting him get away with acting like a teenage boy, but when i need to handle things, i don't have time to sit there and bug him until he gets up.
This, is where you started accepting excuses from you
Guess which one is more poisonous to your marriage?
The latter.
If he "cant get up" when you need him to... then he shouldnt be taking naps in the first place. He should stay up until bedtime, then sleep properly, so he doesnt need naps. It's better for him, and it's better for you too.
The thing is, i bet it isnt a matter of "cant get up", though.
I'm going to use a really extreme case. I'm not necessary suggesting you use this.. (maybe ), but for an example... Do you think it would have taken him 15 mins to get out of bed, if you dumped an ice cold glass of water on him?
Stop accepting excuses from him. Stop accepting excuses from YOURSELF.
to continue with the prior metaphor:
15 year old boys, take 15-30 mins to get out of bed.
ADULTS, get out of bed when it is time. Start expecting him to act like an adult. no more excuses.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
), but for an example...
