A, The last paragraph of your posting is says it all. You have finally gotten to the stage to truly understand what we've been telling you for many months. Now, you need to let it go and allow God to have the entire matter. Practice focusing on you and your children and leave your h twisting in the wind, for there is truly nothing you can do for him. He has to do the work.
Focus, focus, focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
