WAW follow-up

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Sorry to find you here. Sorry if I missed your oringal post, perhaps you provided more detail. If not, can you give us a little more detail about your sitch? It will help us to help you.

About the communication: Without knowing your sitch, it's harder to make a suggestion, but generally, if you are the person who was left behind (LBS), in many circumstances, it's best for you to let the spouse (S) initiate the communication. This accomplishes a couple of things:

1. It let's you focus on things you are doing for yourself
2. It helps show that you are not needy - something that is unattractive to the person who walked away
3. It gives you time to reflect on how you can better communicate, so when you do, you are able to meet your goals

Speaking of goals, have you set any?

One thing to note: Keep going with the chit chat, but let any relationship (R) talk slide. Do NOT initiate a talk about the R. If she pulls you into one, it's probably best to try to keep it as short as possible. Make sure you LISTEN, too.

Those are just a few basic starting steps. Remember: there is no "one size fits all" resolution. We post to try to help you, but overall, you know what is working and what is not.

Good luck. I'll try to check in with you.