I'm always pretty good for a snarky comment or come-back.
Baby cakes, you are the BEST.
I'm taking a page from Puppy's No More Mr. Nice Guy Book... I'm tired of being the sweet, loving, giving, giving, giving fool. I'll still be me, but I will never allow my life to be put in limbo for so long again. Thanks to the fine examples of strength and support I've received here.
I think the trick is to STILL be nice (most people in my life would tell you I'm one of the nicest people they know), but to not be a "Nice Guy"/"Nice Girl" in the contest of the "NMMNG" teaching.
Be courteous, kind and conscientious, but not pleasing.
It's all about who you're doing it for. If you're doing it because it's who you are, and it's simply the right thing to do, then that's fine. But if you're doing it to create some sort of quid pro quo from your spouse, or out of fear of what their reaction is going to be (that they'll "get mad"), then you've crossed over into pleasing/rescuing/supplicating territory, and THAT doesn't work.
