Hey fb2 - we don't actually talk about OM anymore. There are more important things to deal with than who takes the blame for what went bad. Maybe someday, but not right now. I think a bigger problem was that i wasn't complaining enough. I just let him do whatever and didn't say anything... OM will go away whenever H is able to forgive, though i suppose it'll never go away, but we'll be able to live with it better.

I'm being more assertive with H. I think he's taking it to mean that I'm upset, which is fine. I am upset with the way my life is right now, so i'm taking steps to change it.

FWIW - not that it really matters what the order of things were, but H wasnted a divorce and we had like in house seperation for a couple months before i met OM.

It sounds to me like you don't think i'm going about doing things right, what would you recommend, i'm totally open to suggestions... \:\) Thanks

ann

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ann