Alien invasion 3.0

[hoosiermama]

I'm right there with you. And I will give this some thought for sure. But what she was essentially saying was that I am responsible for resolving things for myself, that we're too far apart emotionally to be able to do that together, and we could spend the next year trying to do that and it wouldn't change a thing. Honestly, all that I have done to try to confront the affair has pushed H further into his denial and blame game. He's definitely moved on down the road emotionally and had absolutely no investment in our marriage at this point. And apparently not enough of a conscience to see anything wrong in an EA (or PA for that matter). I am going to process this tomorrow in IC; that C is a hard-liner and I'll be interested to hear her take on the MC.

H did essentially admit to an EA yesterday, or at least admitted to being in the process of pursuing one. Apparently OW backed off a bit after I confronted her, and it seems things are moving slowly--which I find surprising. But that's an observation that isn't based on anything H says, but on the amount of time that he spends with D. I'm not in any way saying that it's okay; however, his acknowledgment has definitely moved me to a different place and I don't feel a need to confront this at all costs--which I did before. I was almost obsessed with breaking through his denial, forcing him to admit it; I think this is all I'm going to get at the moment. I don't think that strategy has worked for me anyway. I am struggling, once again, with contacting someone from his priesthood discernment group to see what they know about what's going on. That won't change anything, most likely, but it will make me feel a little less complicit in presenting a false picture.