I don't know what to tell you. When she says "we're here to talk about D12," I just think you need to say, emphatically, "I UNDERSTAND THAT. But the two of you aren't listening. I"m telling you that I cannot be successful in co-parenting if I cannot trust my husband or ex-husband, whichever happens, and how CAN I trust him -- or even this counseling process with the two of you -- if we're all going to sit here and lie about the 500-lb. elephant in the room?"
Then I would say something like "Look, (MC), you're very respected, and I like you. (standing up) And this is not about trying to 'prove' anything to (your husband's first name). I'm past that. HE knows he's having an affair, I know he's having an affair, and -- with all due respect -- you do, too. When the three of us are ready to stop lying about that, then I'm prepared to come back and try to get back on track with strategies for helping my husband, my daughter and I through this. But right now, we're all wasting each other's time. Thanks for listening."
And walk out.
That's what i would do.
BRAVO!!!!!
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
