Dance Queen, Earlier today I posted a question on Alimari's thread,Is Sex a Miracle. I am trying to get all the advice I can , So I can try to do the right thing. I was hoping I could ask your opinion also. Thank You for the idea to write a letter to my Husband, It is too soon to see what kind of effect it will have, but he did Thank me for writing it.
Unfortunately I can't figure out how to quote my question and bring it over here so here goes.

I know we have a lot of issues to work on BUT one of my big issues is, I need to be more affectionate. In my letter to him, I let him know that I was aware of this and that I am willing and able to change. I think it is too soon for us to even be thinking of sex right now, BUT I so badly want to just hug him, hold him or snuggle up with him in bed. YES, we are still sleeping in the same bed even after he has asked me for a separation. Although he will not touch me at all.

I guess my question is do you think I should step up to the plate and make the first move in being more affectionate, by hugging or touching ? Or, do you think it will look like I am pressuring him ? Should I wait until he makes the first move and shows me he is ready for some affection ? I don't want to scare him off But, I also want him to know I am serious about changing myself and the way I was in the past.

Thank you, Shelby

Me:43
H:43
T:20 YRS
M:15 YRS
Bomb: 6/9/08
Bomb#2 7/6/10
Served with papers at work 7/13/10
DD:14, DD:11