H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

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No, he isn't, and he never has had (except for when he was completing his counsellor training himself, then you have to have a bit - yes that's right folks, he is a trained counsellor!). As for encouraging, LOL, I could never, ever tell H to do anything. He would never take any advice from me! I know he has looked into Sex Addicts Anon, and I don't comment as it might put him off. Plus, his life is his own now, I can't be parent anymore.

But you are right - he does need help. He spoke to me last night about what everyone will think of him as he is 38 and gf is 23,

him - 'They're all going to think it is a midlife-crisis thing, aren't they?!'

me - 'But you and (gf) know that's not the case, so what does it matter?'

him - 'I don't know what it is...'