NTE - then (sorry to be a tough beeotch but....) you will continue to spin your wheels and search for someone else to "blame" for your mistfortune, all the while being sex starved.
Which is worse? The state you are in, or the state you would be in if you made the ultimatum, or the state you will be in if you end up divorced?
DQ
Divorced.
I am not blaming her per se, I know that I am not the perfect Husband/ Lover/ Friend. My fear is that she or I would pull the trigger for the big D pretty quickly and we both have too much pride to reconcile. I can't tell you how many times I took the keys out of the car as she was threatening to leave during our first year. I knew if she left the driveway, we were done.
Now, we have too much baggage and too much damage to give each other much grace. On a 1 to 10 scale, I would give our marriage about a 2. The only reasons we are still together are the kids and finances.
