I'm sorry, too. But as you say it's better to know than not know, so I'm glad he leveled with you. IMO, honesty can always be dealt with better than lies, no matter what the truth is. At least you're not living in the dark anymore, and that's a very good thing.
But...he really needs to tell this stuff to a therapist, too. The man needs help, in a big way. I don't remember reading if he was in T or not--have you encouraged him to get it?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
