It was great, thanks for the recommendation. Nor Cal lucky you, that is so much better then the he77 that is the central valley. At least you can’t see your air ;o) Hope that you have a great day!!
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
OK, what is ESSM? I've searched back through this thread, and can't find it.Now I'm curious.
Oh, sorry, it was a discussion carried over from JWS's thread. ESSM is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind--great movie, rent it if you haven't seen it!
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
Nor Cal lucky you, that is so much better then the he77 that is the central valley. At least you can’t see your air ;o)
LOL. I live in SF, so it's not as bad as the rest of Nor Cal, but we had a couple smoky days there. Our curse is we have to deal with cold, foggy summers. Blech. Today is sunny, though, so that has me smiling.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
I LOVE SF, I lived there briefly as a kid and have visited often. One of my most supportive friends right now lives there too so I have gotten to visit the city a few times over the past few months.
It’s a shame they have closed all the bases there and moved us to such wonderful places as the central valley. Hey if you have not been there check out the Rouge brewery on union st, best beer in the world!! I went to college near the brewery in Oregon and just discovered they have one there too.
Trust me you want the cold, foggy days compared to the highs of 112 that we had two weeks ago. felt like you could just leave dinner out on the doorstep and it would be cooked when you got home.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Hey if you have not been there check out the Rouge brewery on union st, best beer in the world!!
Huh, thanks. I haven't been there yet, I'll have to check it out. You should check out 21st Amendment on 2nd Street next time you're here, they brew their own beer and have really good food.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
will do, as long as i can pull myself from the Rouge such a cool city with so many options!
I just got a call from work saying they don't need me today, so I’ve got the mid week random day off!! Finally a bit of time from some chores I have been putting off.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
Well, H just left. Once again, I DBed my butt off! And switched tactics twice in the middle of it--ninja DBing!
I was confident and joking when we met up, he had called and offered to pick me up from work (!) and then I became rather distracted while he was in the bedroom getting his clothes (I made a phone call and checked my e-mail) and because of my distraction (I think, or did he just want something to talk to me about?) he came out of the bedroom and started in with the legal arrangement talk.
He said he found out some things, and wanted to share them. I listened, but I wasn't in total agreement, so he overreacted, he was all, "I don't want this to drag out!" He was kind of aggressive about it, perhaps trying to intimidate me? When he was, I told him "please don't talk to me like that."
And then, when he was truly becoming a jerk for no reason, actually kind of cruel (he made fun of me for my voice catching, I was struggling and (succeeding very well!) holding back tears--I think they call that contempt), I said, calmly, "You don't need to belittle me." I walked away from him and back to the computer and started replying to an e-mail. I basically ignored him while he stood behind me and off to the side.
His whole demeanor then changed. He got this wide-eyed puppy dog look on his face. He asked when we could talk about our arrangement again, and I said, "whenever you want." He said, how about Friday? I said fine, I'll call you. Back to my e-mail. "Who are you e-mailing?" he said. I said, Do you really think it's any of your business? (with a playful smile on my face, not mean at all). He smiled, embarrassed. Returned to my e-mail.
He said a few more things, and I answered him, but basically ignored him until he left.
I can't believe how well that worked, how much he changed so quickly, one minute being a total aggressive jerk, and the next with this wounded, open look on his face. It's like I blew his anger away by really not being interested in it.
I stepped out of the cycle and stopped it, guys! This DB stuff seriously works.
Now, on to Friday. THAT'S going to be a day. Crikey
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
GOOD WORK NINJA! it sounds like you were able to be coy without being mean...and you were bale to say what you needed without being whiny.
when you didnt agree with the legal stuff did you say it matter-of-factly? i wonder if he wanted to fight so he said it and then you reacted well and he didnt get that reaction so he did it himself?
sounds like you are able to act as if you can handle anything that comes your way...
i agree- DB'ing is amazing. truly. a good way of life.
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
LOL. I live in SF, so it's not as bad as the rest of Nor Cal, but we had a couple smoky days there. Our curse is we have to deal with cold, foggy summers. Blech. Today is sunny, though, so that has me smiling. 