but do feel that next time he trys to draw you into one of these conversations you just say something like.
H I have heard your point of view , but i have previously clearly stated what I expect, here is S5 see you later.
Dave
Very good, I will use that Dave.
Clips from another thread for focus;
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You are right that things could totally have been different had my H known about the OM sooner. In fact he said he would have kicked into action if I had told him that I was even considering it. I always try to think about what I would have done if.....that's how I try to help you when I post to you.
Sounds like you have a good plan. Just make sure that you don't give her everything. DOn't make it so you and her still have a R and that fulfills her completely because she will still get what she needs from you, and also from the OM.
Time for follow through and matter of factness. Continue to say "Ok, so since you are going to continue your affair, etc."....or, "Ok since you've decided to continue cheating on me, etc." No more nice guy, just politeness. No more making lunch and "how is your day" and nice emails. This will not help you. Start implementing the time when she has the kids and time when you have the kids so that they don't have to see this. She needs to feeeeeeeeeeeeel this, h4h. She is not feeling it. (From WDID to H4H)
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Originally Posted By: whatdidido YOu say things get tense when you are short with her and then when you do the littlest thing she is better. Sure she is. She's thinking "whew, he is going to make this easy on me." When my H made it easy on me, I continued the wrong path.
