Oh, I completely forgot to mention that I asked my husband for copies of the wedding and engagement photos he removed from the website. He told me that he didn't remove them "on purpose" that he's "not that petty." Riiiiiight. So the only group of photos "accidentally" removed are wedding and engagement photos? I told him I don't buy it and repeated that I would like copies.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Ours is a little one in a pot, too! We also have a limequat in a pot. The kids don't like those, but they are a bit bigger, and I can make a pie out of them!
You are so adorable, Jeff. How can your wife resist you?????????
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Hello my darling Ms. Imp, I'm just stopping in to see how things are with you.
I'll post more in a bit.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Ours is a little one in a pot, too! We also have a limequat in a pot. The kids don't like those, but they are a bit bigger, and I can make a pie out of them!
You are so adorable, Jeff. How can your wife resist you?????????
I don't wash dishes properly, I'm a little lazy, I don't get the laundry put away right. And I don't yell at the kids enough. I think that covers most of it....
Surprisingly, my husband has been more communicative and nicer since I told him I wanted to get the ball rolling on the divorce. He doesn't look at me with those dead eyes anymore and he playfully/affectionately squeezed my foot last night. Maybe he's relieved and he just didn't want to be the one to make the decision?
I saw this too, still see it. It stings a bit. Who knows what it means, really.
I just caught up on you, my friend. So sorry about the turn of events, but you seem together, or seem to be keeping it together in these yucky times.
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I told him I don't buy it and repeated that I would like copies
You busted him being 'petty' and he couldn't figure out how to get out of it.
I don't wash dishes properly, I'm a little lazy, I don't get the laundry put away right. And I don't yell at the kids enough. I think that covers most of it....
Wow. Your wife sounds like she treats you the way OW treats her soon to be ex. Sad. I hope she can see the gem you are one day soon.
((((((Jeff)))))))
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
lwb, it does sting a little. Last night he worked really late and I was in bed when he got home. He asked me how I felt and I said "I feel fine" in a really upbeat way. He hasn't asked me how I feel in so long. I try not to read more into it other than he just feels a sense of relief that I've accepted our situation, but a tiny part of me thinks maybe he has a shred of regret. Too late now. The ball is rolling and I'm OK with it.
Mike, you're such an angel. Thanks so much for your friendship.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Here you are in your twerplishness and beauty. Forums are forums. You get more hits in Newcomers, a different level of understanding and autonomy in the others.. though "Surviving the Big D" is full of partiers. What might be my next hop.. though it would be more symbolic than anything else.
Just remember.. it's easy to put down your spouse right now. It's better to build up yourself. Just forget all the names I'm calling mine, though.. alrighty? It's a phase I'm going through.
I'm off to see my counselor shortly (see you didn't even have to remind me!).
I'm sorry to hear you're OM and Kumquat will stay at the house, but you never know what the future might bring. Starting anew in a place that is your own is becoming more and more appealing to me.
My daughter is howling in the background 'talking' to her cousin. I should go check, being the loving mom I am.
*hugs*
PS.. I think I read somewhere the other spouse feels such relief once it's out there.. that they do relax. Strange world, interesting people and bewildering aliens.
So, sounds like it's over for you, at least for now. Well, I'm sorry to hear that, but I do believe that you have a great life ahead of you.
As for the being friendly, at lot of the WAS do that. I think my XH did it for a couple of reasons: (1) butter me up to get what he wanted in the D and (2) he can't stand it when people don't admire him, so he wanted to win me back in that way. i used to think it was baby steps, but not anymore.
You sound mentally healthy and strong, much more so than a couple of months ago. I'm glad for that.
Love, Nicola
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