Hey tomato - i miss a week and i have to spend all morning reading your thread...
I think you did good talking to her about the money. I know from experience that a lot of times, people only get that defensive if they are feeling guilty about something. Maybe it's what you were thinking and she's really using the money to pay back her ex or maybe it's that she feels guilty cause of the charges to your account that were "innocent", no matter what it is, she's probably feeling guilty for something.
She turned something little (you asking about apartment) into a major issue. When i was first talking to OM, i would do things like that, cause if i could make him seem like the bad guy, i didn't have to feel so bad about what i had done/ was doing.
As far as the "i hate you" and the secrecy of your new R... I'm guessing she is feeling pretty bad about herself right now. Even if she doesn't want to admit it. She went from having a H, M, family, home and life to now not being able to afford an apartment and having to beg and borrow all the time. She is probably also a little embarrassed about seeing you because if she still wanted to be with you, then why would she have gotten a D. Every time she is with you and enjoying herself, it's just one more thing that says she made a mistake, i can't imagine she wants to broadcast that...
You inspire me. It is so encouraging to see a man with so much faith in God... She's lucky to have you now and will be even more so when she's ready to make some changes and get you back for real!
take care ann
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
