Alimari, I have been reading your thread for a while now. I am still mostly hanging out in the newcomers area. I was wondering if I could ask you a question ?
I know my Husband and I would have a lot of issues to work on if he decides not to separate. But, one of my issues is I need to be more affectionate. I am more than ready to change in this area. BUT I have been holding back now because I do not think at this time he is ready for it. I just want to reach out to him so bad just to hug him or move in closer to him in bed. YES, we are still in the same bed even after he asked for a separation, but he will not even touch me right now. I do not think we are ready for sex right now, but I would love to show affection with a hug or snuggling up to him in bed. We are both aware this is an area we need to work on. Do you think he would like this because it shows I won't hold back any more and I want to change things or do you think it will look like I am trying to pressure him ?
I know it is hard to answer with out knowing him or us. I am just looking for some opinions on what I should do. Should I hold back showing him affection until he hopefully makes the first move or should I step up to the plate first and reach out to him ? At this time he isn't even sure if he wants to work on the marriage or not.
