I guess what hurts is knowing that she saw the problem but never did anything about it - she preferred to focus on herself and her career. The "rewriting" of our history together helps justify that, I guess. She knows she was as much responsible for making the M what she wanted as me, but if things are cast into the light of basic incompatibility, she doesn't have to feel guilty.
lodo,
That is the tough one.... If they saw it was a problem... Why not bring it to light? In the end, we need to realize each partner is responsible for communicating his or her wants, needs and perceptions... You cannot blame yourself for not being a mind reader.....
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
