You are not going to do anything by forcing her to talk to you. IF you complain to family about these matters you will just make matters worse. Here lawyer is her lawyer. Don't discuss what you need from her with him. You are only making his job easier.
Go and get a beater car. Make it work for you. Get a 10 speed if you have too. A moped. build a go cart. 35 miles isn't that far. Trade a computer for a car. Over service for computer work.
Nothing is impossible. Make it happen for you.
28K in debt is nothing. That is a car. Don't worry about that. Focus on you. Detach from her.
