As for the day in AC...my H never gambled, hates the beach and can't stand shows. Not sure why he is going.....or if it is the truth. At this point I really don't care about what he is doing it is what he is denying the children (the time he could be spending with d13 or the money he could be spending on food for them).
I took the money and gave it to s16 for his trip and told him that it was from his dad. I tm'd h that I would do this and I wanted to keep my word. H tm'd me that he is dead to s16 and that he loves him, is proud of him and thinks of him all of the time.
I didn't reply. I just dropped it. H did this damage and I can't get in the middle of it. S16 will never forgive H unless H returns and fixes our family. Even then it would take a while. I think H has given up and therefore stays stuck where he is.
Snodderly, the lying is just unreal to me. My h was so honest. He always preached to the kids about lying and he has turned into the biggest liar of them all. It is so sad to me. I have to wonder how he can have any type of healthy R with anyone while he is lying to everyone even himself.
I have to wonder if the nightmares he is having are part of the guilt that must be eating him up inside or if they are part of the depression. I wish the powers to be would fix the link to the depression articles from the resource page. I would like to get ahold of some of the reading material you suggested.
Last year at this time he was always around. Hanging by the pool. Bringing dinner. Now, he can't look at the pool. Doesn't offer to help with it and doesn't use it and seems to be working all of the time. Last year he said he was opening it for the kids. So they would have it. This year he said it cost too much money to open and didn't want to help out.
So Snodderly, there is truly nothing I can do for this man. He is in God's hands. I just have to stop trying to figure it out because it makes no sense whatsoever.
