The Peach Tree!

[Lissie]

As I posted to FLTC, the values associated with my heritage have no place on this BB.

Huh? (scratching head)

Part of why I am leaving the BB.

again Huh? b/c you keep saying, but you are still here.

how about I thrust the entire history of my Indian family right at you.

Um But, what does this have to do with SG's beautiful peach tree?

I know the West looks down on and mocks our system of arranged M's. However - it works for many in my culture. All of the men M women with the education and ability to earn a living that can sustain a family before they got M. My uncle wanted to M someone that would be a stay at home wife - not some woman that would go to school and challenge him too much. My grandmother told him - he would have to find his own W if those were his standards. My mother slacked off while working on her Masters - my grandfather pulled her aside and told her that if she thought he would arrange her M so she could get out of finishing her degree - it was not going to happen.

The West, as in everyone? Good grief, I haven't heard one person on this BB ever say anything against arranged marriages, or the like.

I think we all would agree that an education is wonderful.

My father grew up in Bangladesh and his family lost everything during the British partion of India. He had 8 siblings. That interfered with the education thing b/c they left everything behind as they ran for their lives. My father - could probably write a book about the lengths he went to come to this country to get an education. He has a Ph.d in civil engineering.

Well I think a book can be written about my wonderful father. A cuban political prisoner that escaped cuba and swam 90 miles in shark infested waters(while pushing my brother in a small raft)So that my brother and my dad can come to a country where my dad can speak his mind and not be arrested or killed for it.

My mom didn't have to escape thank God, she was allowed a pass, and guess what, she came with 7 boys, that later her and my father adopted. So I grew up in a house of 10 kids.

And my CULTURE is something I am so very proud of, and understand in parts where you are coming from. But to say that I will only associate with Cubans, that are educated seems like nothing that my wonderful culture has taught me.

To look down my nose at others would be disresctful to my family at best. I am sure it would be to your heritage also.

One of my best friends is from a beautiful Indian Culture and she would probably cry from reading what you wrote.

When I was growing up - I was not allowed to date. We were never out of the house past 6 pm - yes that is right 6 pm until I left for college. I was not required to do chores. The only thing my family demanded of me was excelling in school. I started staying up nights to study for finals when I was 13.

Hmm, again me neither, I went from my parents house to my x husbands and I home.

B/c this is the way I was also raised in my culture. I would neve look down on others that were not raised this way. We all have something to contribute.

did the whole Western drinking and sex thing -

Hmm funny, I didn't. And b/c I could not come home afterwards and look at my parents in the face. You know b/c they did so much to come to this country and all, and I would not want to disrespect them in that way.

As for me - I fully intend to carry on my family's tradition.

Which traditon would that be, looking down your nose at others? and hiding behind an Indian culture that you portray in your own certain way? Twist around to best suit you and your stepping on others?

My priority post D was not finding an R. It was financially stabilizing myself. Once again - that would be an Indian thing...

An Indian thing? OMG. I think now I see that you say and do these things for the attention you are getting. HOpe those millionare.com guys know about that Indian Thang!

I will reserve these conversations for folks of my own heritage.

Please do, b/c the hurt you display here to people of all walks of life is competely disrespectful