Alien invasion 3.0

[hoosiermama]

I should quit dwelling on this, but I probably need to do a little processing. Been trying to figure out what was so upsetting yesterday at MC and why I felt so betrayed. I think it was the attitude of the MC. Giving a lot of validation to H when he talked about not having a good place to spend time with D, since he's staying in some friends' converted attic. Well, that was his choice, and he's living with the consequences of that; why the "poor H" response? And her repeated reminders to me that "this isn't marriage counseling, it's about D12." Well, that may be the contract between H and MC, but I thought it was marriage counseling; if she's clearly observing that I'm very distressed and can identify that I have a lot of unresolved, unfinished emotional stuff--why is it ok to say that we can't deal with that in MC, and that I may never be able to resolve it? Why can she not facilitate that? H is getting everything he wants, and can't even be kind or honest with me; why is that an acceptable outcome? Why is he not accountable--to anyone--for his behavior? Why is it okay for him to keep blaming me for everything--and not get called on it? I think that's what I find most distressing about this whole MLC thing; everyone seems to agree that's what's going on, but no one is telling H he's behaving selfishly and inappropriately and causing emotional damage. It just mirrors what's going on at work--the bad guys won and now I'm supposed to make it all right for everyone.