Hi Forrest, I have read the first two threads and will read the last one today. You know what this makes me think of? AmyC and her H. He just would not let go of what happened in the past no matter how hard or how long she stood for her M. Some men just will not forgive and trust again, but I hope I am wrong about this one. Anyway, I will read the third thread today.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!