Thank you for your post. It validated my decision to limit my non-Indian social circle to overachievers only.
Regards, AG
Wow. I could not believe my eyes when I read this post. And this last sentence is a zinger. So you won't hang out with non-Indians unless they're overachievers? What a concept. What comes next...separating the underachievers from the overachievers and having separate communities for them? Hmmm, isn't that the same as segregation?
Let me tell you something...having a degree or several degrees doesn't make someone "smarter" than someone who doesn't. I have a degree and my BF since third grade doesn't. In fact, she didn't graduate high school. She did get her GED though. And I'm sure in your eyes that makes her an underachiever. Maybe there are other things that you would say about her b/c of that. She is one of the smartest, most sincere and loyal people you'd ever want to meet. Her compassion for people regardless of race, religion or heritage is amazing. A lot of people should be more like her.
As for the West (that would be me) mocking arranged marriages, well, I never gave it much thought. Still don't. Who cares? If someone wants to enter a M that way, it's up to them. I don't look down on it. I have my own problems. The same way I don't care if someone marries outside their race or religion. Who cares? Isn't being happy what counts?
I have several Indian acquaintances who would be flabbergasted to read your posts about your heritage and your lofty feelings of self-importance. One of them is a doctor and she is the sweetest person. She was widowed early and has put her three children through college, all at Ivy League schools. She works hard and there is no way she looks down on anyone if they don't have a degree to match hers.
And you seem to put down the West and the Western way of doing things, yet you say you had fun and did the whole Western drinking and sex thing. You hung out with the rich bunco wives and talk about them behind their backs. Why hang with them in the first place?
Good luck with your self-imposed limits on your social life. Maybe you'll find the peace and solace you're looking for in the circle of people you choose of your heritage. I'm glad I didn't do that. I would have missed out on some truly wonderful friendships if I limited my social circle to people of my own heritage. There's a rich melting pot of cultures out there and I've had fun getting to know about those cultures and making friends of many different ethnic backgrounds over the course of my life. How lucky am I?
