Originally Posted By: 4kids
What are you hoping to accomplish with this letter?



4kids, firstly a big thanks for getting involved in my thread and for showing your support even though we're thousands of miles apart

Firstly, a few other standers have asked me repeatedly IF I have ever "told" my wife the WHY part of my STAND and how that has affected the d-proceedings.

I don't think my wife has ANY notions as to my stand and merely sees me as preventing her from leaving the marriage (legally).

It wouldn't be an attempt at finding the "magic bullet" to bring her home - even though that's what many of us pray for

Seeds can be planted by our Heavenly Father at ANY time in our wayward spouses hearts so that's something to contemplate - I AM a fixer and have wanted many times to somehow "manipulate" the situation, but I know it's not my place to do so.

I'm obviously interested in seeing how a letter to my wife would sit in the scheme of things, but as we have zippo contact the other intention would be a small glimpse at the "reasons" I have for STANDING whether she subscribes to them or not...AND without appearing I am still pursuing her!!

She remains in my daily prayers but apart from that there is no "pursuit" or attempts at contact - her having a boyfriend (shudder ) expalins "most" of her behaviour for the last 19 months in that this has been an "easy" transition for her knowing there was emotional (and physical) support for her on the other side of the river (literally \:\( )...

I don't know if any of this makes sense, but the lady I married once had a deep sense of right and wrong and yes, I do know she's been taken prisoner by the enemy so I'm merely verbalising some thoughts I've been having

Bomb dropped - (09-11-2006) my 9-11

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