Really upside down #2

[Continuing]

And as much as it absolutely sucked....you did.

Right now you're thinking, this absolutely bites.

And in your mind you're saying, the only way through this according to everybody is to just let her go.

But if I let her go, guys will be over her like white on rice.

And then it will be over.


Question UD. Who's the better man? Aren't you better for her than any of those other guys? Aren't you the man who TRULY loves her, who loves her UNCONDITIONALLY? Aren't you the guy who, even though he would be absolutely fine on his own, WANTS to share your life with this woman?


The question is not "what do those guys have that I don't have?"

The question is "What do YOU have that those guys don't?"


You've got to start digging deep into UD and start manning up. You've allowed the hurt and fear to castrate you into a whiny, needy, fearful man who can do nothing but worry about losing her.


How about making yourself in to such a man that she starts worrying about losing YOU?


Because, you see, THAT'S the DB'ing approach.


Chin up. Stop moping. Recognize the RIGHT thing that you did tonight was step one to becoming the man who can live with or without her. The first step to becoming the man that she can only hope is still around when she's done "processing" whatever it is that she's processing.


Blessings,

Bill

I know that was for you UD but I think we all need to be reminded of this from time to time.

Thanks Bill!