Another Brand New Day III

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Haven't gone through your whole topic but think it sound similar to mine. Separated 9 months, just found out about OW. Think it is too soon anyway, but not my choice obviously. My problem is the exposure to the kids, and now to me. I knew it would happen eventually and I would have the pain of facing it, but OW has been at his father's for the last 2 days I picked up the kids. Left him a VM tonite stating that he could do me a favor by having the courtesy/decency to let me know OW is there and I will pick up the kids around the corner. This will keep my stomach from dropping every night. I just don't want it in my face, is that wrong? I have tried my best not to say anything bad about OW or the situation in itself. Yesterday I even introduced myself to her and shook her hand-extremely hard. H has not even acknowledged her existence in any form-friend, OW, etc. And come to find out she has spent more than one overnight with my kids - at least one in a tent. Lawyer says I can do nothing about stopping the exposure. That is what I am mainly concerned about the whole thing. Sigh, just another thing I have no control over.

So as I see you have mentioned, I am going to try and go as black as I can to try and avoid contact with H as it only causes a distruption for me to the life I am trying to have alone. This at this time is just too much for me to handle. And, who gets involved with a married man, even if they tell you it is over and they have seen a lawyer? Guess you would have to be someone who has gone through such a thing like us to understand that, huh?