H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

Our parents will ask about him. At the moment I am the main point of contact for both sets (because of the children) and so they will ask. Especially as he has not contacted his parents after our evening with them when they got very cross with us.

He is physically not able to be single. I knew it wouldn't be long, so did he, but that's probably because for him and GF background work was already done.

The reason I want to know is that if he doesn't tell me, then I get H in deception mode, jumpy, irritated, distant and weird. I guess if he didn't live here at all then he could be free to do what he wanted and not have to tell me.