You Don't Have Me (11)

[jandn]

It's a catch-22 in a way. We come here because we want to focus on our spouse and on our marriage. But they don't improve until we can detach from them and focus on ourselves.

Hope this statement is true to the "T". Nothing else is working. Can relate to everything else said in the past ten or so posts (except giving up). But if thats the attitude you have now, maybe it will help you detach and the changes will follow to change your mind.

or sometimes they just don't improve because they won't deal with their own issues.

I hear that! We are the only ones with the problems supposedly although it takes 2 to tango.