Hey LL.

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wishing I didn't care that my parent were divorced.

I hate being the child of divorce...sometimes I wonder though...if I didn't hate it so much....maybe I myself would be divorced.
I know where you're coming from. It's not something you ever really get over and it's something you have to contend with all your life. Where do you spend the holidays? If you invite them both over will they be civil to one another? How will new(er) W or new H feel? It's ridiculous.

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I still haven't forgiven h for everything...
I also know what you mean here too...although I think it's different for everyone. For me, my W was fully engaged in her A during our 10-year anniversary. To me it seemed a rather monumental event, but she couldn't care less and said, "it's just another year." I think about all the things we did together during the year she was having the A and how hollow, empty, and painful those events are now to me. So, I can imagine how you felt about your infant DD...and I'm sorry... (((LL)))

Perhaps try to remember that your father's decision was his alone and he has to bear the consequences of those actions. Whether you approve or not, it is what it is. I don't mean to reduce it to a cliche', but it's his to live with. I understand your anger, but is it your right to tell him, "NEVER EVER AGAIN ASK ME IF IT IS OK IF SHE IS AROUND ME?" Sometimes, in order to have some good, we have to take the bad along with it. If your dad chooses to be with OW and you choose to spend time with your dad, then what can you do...really? It doesn't mean you have to agree with his "weak" decision, but there will come a day where you are going to have to deal with this too...

Again, I am not coming from ignorance here. My dad essentially did the same thing, but there was also alcoholism involved. He's now on his third M. It sucks...I know...and I'm sorry you're having a bad day.

jethro