Thank you so much for the support. I just took a swan dive into my grief, I'm PMS'ing (sorry, guys), D is staying overnite with H, and it's just all hitting me at once. I did this about a month ago, so I know that part of this is hormonal and will pass quickly. And so I truly appreciate everyone's support.
You know, I'm not praying for anything in particular, mostly just "be with me" and "help." You didn't sound flippant at all. I just keep thinking about what I would tell someone in my situation during a pastoral visit, and yes--it resonates, it rings true. I know that God is weeping with me, is doing whatever He can do in this situation in which so many different people are making self-serving choices. Most of my ministry is just listening, being open to whatever God wants me to express to someone in pain, helping them not to feel abandoned, and a lot of staying out of the way. So I'm trying to do that for myself--listening, not telling God how I want him to help me (I can be pretty good with those kind of instructions!), and leaning on God. And he's sent me messages from y'all. Thanks for being messengers!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012