Of course its your fault, they take no responsibilty at all for anything, this is one of there problems. Im glad you called him on it, he shouldn't talk to you like that married or not, you don't deserve any of that.
He needs to give you all the space you need at this point, he made his bed, now he needs to lie in it.. I mean away in it.
Soon this won't be your problem it will be someone else's, and that part you can find relief in.
(((hugs)))
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.