Really upside down #2

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You have nothing to lose asking her to lunch. Just lunch, no R talk. She can decide yes or no. If she says yes, you will have a wonderful opportunity to SHOW her your new behaviors.
I'm wondering about something you said earlier, about 'knowing' she's getting hit on. Is it possible you are making assumptions on that?
Let's suppose you aren't, and she's being hit on left and right. Have you asked, "How does that [the attention] make you feel?" Shut up and listen to the answer, it might surprise you. Do not do this on the day you take her to lunch. Peace.

Goldey, thanks for stopping by. Yes, I know for sure. I've seen it with my own two eyes. I know a guy that has been in the circle of friends I used to be in. He was engaged and just left. JUST moved out like last week. He asked for her number. He's always looked at her kinda funny.

I could ask, but the thing is, I don't trust her answers because I already know she is conveniently leaving things out. Example: She went to a bar because ex bf invited her. I asked what she did that day and she said she went to the bar with her cousin and some people I didn't know to see a guitarist.

So at this point, it's better to live by "let go" or "ignorance is bliss"

Don'tcha think?