Well said SG. I could not add a thing to your post to make it more real.

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CG was still hurting, big time over his D which was over 7 years ago. He felt a lot of bitterness about losing a lot of "his" money in the settlement.


Yes, how soon people forget others contributions.

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In my case, I was never a full-time SAHM. I always worked or went to school part time. My schedule and my life was completely arranged to support my kids and my H, first while he was in Grad school, and then later as he started his career.

Sure, there is the 24/7 aspect of parenting that is really hard to comprehend until you do it. And I was creative, thrifty and supportive for the entire time. My so-called career was never really a career, it was just a way to bring in a little extra cash in a way that was compatible with the kid's schedule. I fully expected to be part of a "team" called my family and make my contributions by supporting the other 3 members in the best possible way. I did this for 19 years.


I worked full time throughout my kids' lives, but either way, whether it had been part-time or full time, I was the one who picked them up from daycare every single day, who fed them dinner every single night, who gave them their baths every single night, who read them their books every single night, and when they went to school - the one who made it to the parent-teacher conferences, the one who made sure their homework was done, the one who help with their projects, the one who punished and praised, and did all that stuff - as did you.

Because it doesn't matter whether you're a SAHM or a working mom, or a SAHD, or a working dad. Those who really get it that having kids is a real other job know how hard it is and those who have never done so have NO EARTHLY IDEA how hard it is. But it's the hardest, best thing we will ever do.

Unless you've ever done it, you have no idea what it's all about. Not a frickin' clue.