the shift

[sage]

h did most of the talking after that point...it was nice to hear him say the things he did...h expressed that each day things seem a little clearer to him but listen to this one SAGE! when things are going well his eyes open to more and more...he sees the wrong choices he made clearer etc...when we (or rather I pull him back to that time with questions or accusations etc) get pulled back to yucky stuff the fog returns.

this just makes so much sense! I'm glad he's opening up to you, LL. (and helping me out, too!)

how will we, he, or I keep this from happening again. h responded with it wont...he wont to that again (ow/leaving). I pointed out (as nicely as possible) that neither of us would have thought it would happen the first time so how other than simply saying it wont happen do we keep it from happening..ie if you (h) start to feel that way again what will you do? h responded that if I were doing something he didn't like he'd tell me...hey I don't like that. good to hear!

See? I don't need to go to MC with h (as if he'd go!). I 'll just live vicariously through you and h.

6. I'm starting to feel like it is ok to love h, ok I've felt it for a while but feel safer with each passing day.

Fantastic!!!!

Sage