Hey RTL, I was watching the British Grand Prix a couple weeks back. Formula 1 is the top auto racing series in the world. Teams spend hundreds of millions of dollars just to field a couple cars for a single year. The drivers are all paid millions. They are also all young - some of them as young as 21 years old.
The one thing I notice about these drivers is their extreme tolerance level for stress. They can totally keep cool under pressure. There were some really heavy moments in the British Grand Prix - heavy rain and poor visibility. And the guy who won said this was his mantra to himself during the race - "just keep cool, keep cool."
keep cool, man!
about Ph2's comment - I liked the gist of it, except I have to differ with the last part: the only words that count from her are "I'm sorry. I never should have left. yada yada". I'm not so sure you should count on that. If you read the DR book, it does mention that their return is not always accompanied by this kind of talk. It doesn't mean they don't believe it. I guess what I am saying is, don't let Pride get in the way of reconciliation. Like I said, I agree with the sentiment that she has to win you back. There is such a thing as being too hard-to-get.
On the fitness thing - If you want to lose weight, what you are really need to do is burn more calories than you consume. There are shortcuts to doing this - like, fast for 4 days - and there is the long-term approach, which is, include more activity into your daily life, and be more thoughtful about what you consume.
It sounds simple and it is, in theory, but hard to stick with. What I found helpful was to have a goal - like running a 45 minute 10k, or running a sub 3-hour marathon. That gives you something to shoot for, something that pulls you out of bed in the morning to workout.
I'd advise you to get a recent book on cardio training. One that I can recommend is The Ultimate Ride by Chris Carmichael, but it is heavily oriented toward cycling.
There have been some significant advances in CV training theory in recent years - much of it centered on heart rate as an metric to monitor during workouts. I found the heart rate workout theory to be really helpful too, if only because it gave me another thing to watch and measure during my workouts. It also helped me stick with the program, because contrary to what we might think, a "good workout" is not always the most strenuous. It's better to exercise at an elevated heart rate (say 80% of max), than an extreme HR. Over time, the extreme HR will tear you down and wear you out, and you'll give up on the workouts sooner. The "right" heart rate is sustainable over the full workout, and also sustainable in the long term.
Last thing - having a training buddy works wonders, too. Just someone to workout with every day or every other day, etc.
