Your H calls frantically over and over again to make arrangements for when he will see his son.. and then after you mention that Wednesday would work best for you and to forgo his initial request of Tuesday and Wednesday he drops all contact.
What does that tell me (someone with no psychological training)?
Priorities. Your H's priority at this point is definitely not your son. Seems it is his priority to put you back in the cozy spot under his thumb! I'd bet he's regrouping.. wonder what arsenal he's going to show up with next? (from W2G)
Finally got a call around noon asking me to please call him back "you know the numbers."
I called back right away, "I just got out of the shower, what's up?"
"Well, you haven't been returning my calls & it started right after the e-mail requesting my flt info, which I sent you, so I don't know what the problem is."
"Yes, I got the e-mail confirming you left out of San Diego, not TJ, so it told me all I needed to know."
"I never told you I was leaving out of TJ, it was always SD."
"TJ was a direct response to a question, it was SD."
"But, I gave you everything you asked for, you saw the ticket for 1 PAX, I went alone on the trip."
"I'm not sure why you would tell me the wrong departure city. It could have been b/c you were spending the night w/your affair, she was taking you to the airport & you didn't want me to confront/see you. Was that maybe the reason?" (I do know now that he spent that night & last night w/OW upon his return)
Upset now, "I sent you a copy of the ticket."
"Yes, I understand that, would you answer the question please."
"I'm finished talking about this."
"Okay, let's go over you renting a place a few blocks away from me, I find it incredibly disrespectful that you would bring your affair into my neighborhood....."
"Well, you have "Boat Boy" right down at the marina (yelling now), & I know you were going to take S5 on 4th of July to watch fireworks w/him. Where do you suggest I live, I'm not coming to that house, we can't keep doing this."
"I wasn't intending to do that, in fact, S5 has never met him. Despite what you may think, we're only friends."
"I know all about it, I won't say how I know, but I know."
"Like I said the other day, I'm not sure how we got here, but it's now spiraling (sp?) out of control. I have a high moral grounding & will always choose what's right. Right for my kids, for me, & my family, I wouldn't do anything to harm that. We are just friends. If you think the only way to go is to break this family apart & ramp things up, that's out of my control, however, I do not want S5 or S16 exposed to someone who would start a R w/a married man & father."
-5 minutes of silence-
(Calm now)"O.K., let's both take a breather from this, I'll see you tomorrow night when I come for S." (I think it's back to the cave, Dave)
I was calm & collected.
Anyway, there was no mention of talking to S, or coming by today, which leads me to think it isn't about him.
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I agree with knowing things. I am all for that. Knowledge is power...
I think so too, K!
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My deepest apologies for sending the wrong message. I would never ever even think of thinking of you as the 'depend'able astronaut!
It was more my own backlash reaction to pain remembered. How finding out some information was motivating, too much information hurt me.
