Peace, I was very sorry to read your posting. Whether you are prepared for the papers or not, it hurts like h@ll. No one wins when a divorce takes place. Do your homework, look at this as a business deal that you need to take care of.
Peace, cry, grieve, do whatever you need to do to come out the other side. Once the dust settles and you are able to see a little bit more clearly, you will come to realize that you were carrying a stressful burden. If the divorce does go through, the burden will be lifted a bit and you will begin to see the light of day again, but it will be gradual. Be kind to yourself during this time.
We are all here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
