A, When he offers you money, take it and run. Your daughter saw him with a wad of cash? I wonder what he's spent it on? A day in Atlantic City? Does your h enjoy gambling, shows or the beach? Sounds to me like he's look for a "rush". Then again, maybe he truly needs a day away from everything. They do tend to vacation quite a bit.
BTW, yes, they do tend to stretch the truth to the point of lying through their teeth and also looking you straight in the eye.
A, there's nothing you can do about him and/or his situation. Your "adult" child will need to figure it out for himself. Keep the focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
