lodo, I never put much thought into choosing a forum, but I think choosing to move to Separated or Surviving is kind of making my reality more real...

About the OM:
Originally Posted By: girlfromipanema in early June
I've started to develop feelings for another man. I think these feelings have developed into LOVE. I'm not kidding. And, I think he feels the same. He lives on my street and visits with me every evening before my husband gets home from work. This morning I was having my coffee on the porch and he joined me. He's not much to look at, but he's super sweet. He's in pretty rough shape - a diabetic, skin and bones and up there in years. Bless his heart. I think he's lonely and wants some lovin' during his senior years. Who could blame him?

I really need to stop my feelings from growing. I cannot get too attached to this old guy. What am I to do????


I was referring to Mr. Bizarro, the neighbor's old neglected cat. Thinking he was on death's door, I didn't want to get too attached. It became a standing joke to refer to him as the OM.


M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence