My sense...talk to his pastor and then the bishop.
It's bigger than you. A minister is a position of public trust. He'll be counseling people.
My story is similar. The OM in my case was my ex-best friend who was a seminary student. I hesitated to blow the whistle on him. Oh, and my wife is into new-age/goddess spirituality.
How's that for parallels?
Wow--amazing parallels!
I have talked at length with his pastor, shared emails with him; he was shocked and supportive. He was very clear that our talk would be a one-shot thing because of the messiness of the relationships involved. He had consulted with his multi-denominational support group of area pastors, they advised this boundary, and I have respected it. I have also talked with his wife, who's a good friend of mine; they have agreed not to discuss our sitch between them, and she's been very supportive. So I think I'm played out there. It would be nearly impossible to get in to see the bishop, practically speaking. And H threatened me if I contacted any of his colleagues. And I'm still dealing with being complicit in his hiding the full truth from his discernment group.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
