Could our Karen really have written that? Not a single statement with a question mark in sight? Hope that made you smile...and Karen you know I love you and your question marks.
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Wow! You're right-I hadn't noticed that. Maybe that was really someone else posting as me???? OK, there's a ? for ya!
Hope is a wonderful thing. Thank you for your well wishes. I'm wondering if there is a small amount of hope to find in your relationship with your W if you want to see it. But, it takes two. I'm always keeping an eye on you, Jeff. I want you to be happy.
whatdidido:I'm wondering if there is a small amount of hope to find in your relationship with your W if you want to see it. But, it takes two.
It does take two, and I have already on several occasions, told W we can work this out, I'm willing to do almost anything, only thing standing between us was OM. She would tell me she wasn't seeing him and when I said we could confirm that by checking her phone records, she caved in, said no and admitted they were still seeing each other.
I was always willing to do what was necessary but I would not put up with OM and she would not give up OM, so bye bye, get out hence the name of my posting: New Abbreviation for everyone TSO = throw spouse out (original post)
I do have hope, but its hope for the future without W - its always been black and white to me get rid of OM and I'll be there for her. I'm scared when she comes crashing down from her dream world, whats going to happen, if she would ever approach me about reconciliation, and how I would handle it.
Working on protecting my kids, my house, my finances, working on me, GAL stuff, working on the house, projects at work, I have a busy life, which keeps me from dwelling on what my W has done to me and is doing to our family.
FYI reading your post whatdidido, boy I'm so happy for you, enjoy yourself, enjoy your family, have fun
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Thanks, Jeff. Yep, if she wouldn't leave the OM, you had to follow through with what you are doing/did. It makes sense.
I do think she will regret her decision. There are so many things she is confused about- her OCD tendencies, her role as a mother, role as a wife, what's important in life, even just being a good human being. I do feel sorry for her. If she never comes to reconcile with you, or if you are unable to give it to her, she has lost out on a life and husband that she will never again get in her lifetime. It's sad all around.
I am glad you have hope for the future. You are a fantastic dad and a good human being and you deserve happiness. Are you still going to church?
puppy: greatly admire your steadfastness and unwavering strength
thanks puppy
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whatdidido: I am glad you have hope for the future. You are a fantastic dad and a good human being and you deserve happiness. Are you still going to church?
thank you whatdidido and yes the children and I all go to church every Sunday and I'm making sure to include this in the D settlement, that when kids are with W, she is required to take them to church on Sunday or drop them off so I can take them.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
W went to her L tonight, I gave her $ to cover cost, I wasn't expecting her to have already set a appointment because we haven't worked out her medical insurance, my company will not cover her after divorce, so I thought she would have posponed meeting until we decided how to handle medical insurance for her.
When I came home and told her I thought she would wait, she said, she would waive the requirement that I pay her medical for a year. So all she gets now is 1/2 my 401K and thats it. She is legally able to have the kids every other weekend, But that will cut into her social life.
She called after the meeting, because she wanted to know how D6 was, she isn't feeling well, nothing major, I asked her how the meeting went, she said everthing went ok, I said I don't want any suprises and she said there won't be any.
I don't know what to think, to easy, believe she is still in dream world, who knows, thought to myself maybe, she and OM are going to get married, I know she is in love with him.
I don't know, life moves forward.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = neve
Its ok lwb, its not that hard on me, I just have to think about all the stuff she has done to me and the kids
When W treated me like crap. I just keep thinking to myself, she is cheating on me, she almost bankrupted us with her crashing 2 vans, and raising our insurance, she was never happy with what we had, always looking at what others had or were doing, not happy with her life with me and the kids. She cannot handle money, we paid off her credit cards, took 10 years and in my snooping days, I found out she had already ran up $8000 more in credit card debt. She cannot handle kids, her and D9 always fighting, her yelling at the kids all the time.
bye bye good bye crazy lady, I will be way better off without her. I would have tried but W unwilling so I have no choice, none of this has been my decision, I'm just going with the flow.
I loved her like crazy but she doesn't want me, so what choice do I have, life does move on and so will I.
I haven't heard from you lately lwb, I hope everything is going ok for you. wishing you the best
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
